The Bridge of Trust & The Breach of Trust

“I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you.”

Once we breach the "once-perfect" trust between ourselves and a friend, would he/she still trust us the same?

There's a big possibility of the answer "No".

Breach of trust -

A close friend of yours whom you trusted stole your favourite pen (or might probably unintentionally took it) without telling you. You get angry and scold him / her, asking him / her not to touch your belongings, ever, again.

That's a minor breach of trust.

You gave your boy / girlfriend your bank account number, but found out that your account is emptied a few days after, as all the money were transferred to a foreign account instead. You phoned your friend for an explanation, but he / she had already changed his / her number already.

That's a MAJOR breach of trust.

Trust - it ranges from virtually every level, every aspect.

You trust that your best friend would help you out when you're facing a problem.
You trust your friend not to alter your blog after you gave him / her access and control over it.
You trust that your volleyball teammate would help cover the area behind you.
You trust that honest guy to help you deliver an important package.

It's everywhere.

True friendship wouldn't have existed without trust.
Marriage wouldn't have happened without trust.
An organization wouldn't have survived without trust.
The world wouldn't last till today without trust.

People sense how you feel about them. If you want to change their attitudes toward you, change the negative attitudes you have toward them.

That's what i think anyway, as trust is two-wayed.

If you want someone to trust you, you'd have to trust that person first.

One more thing:

If you listen well, people will trust you.

I actually searched back fat404's archive for something he said long ago, and i found it at last.

"I would rather teach someone who is dumb but is willing to learn than someone who is smart and lazy"
(Source: My Teammates, My Band Of Brothers, Thursday, October 18 2007 @ 1:06 AM, fat404's Journal)

Teamwork, trust, integrity, the initiative to listen - they're all related.

Ever wondered why some psychologists have the ability to make people confide in them, while others can't?

Easy - because expert psychologists has the skill to get "close" to patients, to make patients trust them. They would listen and give constructive advices instead of reprimanding the patients before the patients open their mouth.

Who'd want to befriend a person that has a reputation for backstabbing his / her friends?

Well, uhhm, no one but a few.

Who'd want to be in the same team with a person that has a reputation for jeopardizing his / her team always?

Again, no one but a few.

But the problem is, the "few" is hard to find.

So, it's always better to be someone whom people trust ..

.. rather than being someone who's constantly discriminated by others.

Which am i?
Am i the one whom people trust?
Am i just a regular person?
Or.. Am i the person whom people avoid?

That's up to others to decide, but for me to control.

Seems pretty "Zen", huh?

“Trust is like a vase.. once it's broken, though you can fix it, the vase will never be the same again.”

P/S: @fat, I WANT GAME!! Geez, i've only played 6.57 for once, and the last version i played was 6.49 a few months ago, imagine that.

And oh btw, i don't know if i'll continue blogging for a while, as i might need time to give my mind peace.
I might still blog, or i might not.
Depends.